My chosen coaching tool: the Life Languages™.

Have you taken your Life Languages™ profile yet?

Many of my followers have, but some have not. It’s a valuable insight into your communication preferences that helps you adapt to others when you understand the distinctiveness of each of the seven languages.

Your profile is the starting point for communication mastery. Your profile report will give you the significant characteristics of each of the seven languages and a filter question that must be answered for effective communication. Then, each language has a unique need from others and a specific passion that language brings to the picture. Finally, there is a crucial character strength each language carries.

What your profile can tell you.

First: your unique blend of all seven of the Life Languages. Nobody else has the profile you have, so this is valuable self-awareness. I loved how my first profile represented the first time I felt genuinely validated as an individual.

Each language has specific qualities and characteristics, so you can learn them and become more fluent in each language.

Some filter questions are more prominent for you than others, and some of your needs from others are more noticeable, even though you have all seven languages in your profile.

Second, you are more than one language out of seven; even your lowest language will come into your communication at least weekly, if not daily. You can learn to communicate more effectively by bridging your preferences to someone else’s.

Third: your preferred communication sequence. Some of us think first, others act, and many feel first. Your communication sequence flows from your language profile.

Fourth, you can identify when one or more languages in your profile become distressed. Each language needs a specific question answered, and each language has a particular need from the others in the interaction. Distress results if not recognized or a language’s particular strengths and passions are not valued. Sadly, distress is widespread because we haven’t achieved communication mastery. Unintentionally, we find communication drained of life because we don’t understand the science built into it.

So, learning to identify distress in yourself quickly will show you what is needed to address the distress and move back into healthy communication. As you grow your ability to recognize distress in others, it becomes an invitation to help them. It’s a powerful benefit and has helped many that I’ve coached.

There’s much more to discover in your profile, especially if you upgrade to the Professional profile with communication indicators, and coaching is vital to help you extract all the value from your profile because You don’t know what you don’t know. I love to help people discover more about themselves and grow in their ability to connect with others.

How to use what you know to strengthen communication.

After learning about yourself through your profile, you can go on to understand how you come across to others.

Communication is two-ended. Communication is hindered if the receiver doesn’t receive what the sender sends or receives it differently than intended. I need to figure out how the person I’m communicating with prefers to receive and give communication.  

Learning the specific characteristics of each of the seven languages helps me identify which language we are speaking. How I communicate with someone whose first language is Contemplator will be very different from how I connect with someone whose first language is Mover.

Likewise, with my understanding of Life Languages, I can decode or translate when someone is speaking one of my lower languages. I’m tempted to react to something rather than receive it.

In both cases, our connection grows because the barrier of misunderstanding is removed. Knowing the facts of the Life Languages™ helps us tremendously.

You are a person, not a profile. We all speak all seven languages at some point in the day or the week. So, the fundamental question in any interaction is, “Which language are we speaking?”

Message me if you’d like help to figure that out!